Anxiety on the Rise and Our Response

Anxiety on the Rise and Our Response

Over the years, I have met with and counseled more teens than I can remember on depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts or attempts. The weight of those counseling sessions was always heavier for me than others. Most sessions left me with my head in my hands trying to figure out how we got in this place. How did we get here?

I will never forget the night. It was the night before we tore down a back wall of our student facility for renovation needs. That night we were talking about a phrase called, Stockholm Syndrom. At the end of the service, we encouraged students to write on the wall the things that were holding them captive. The things that they kept running to but wanted to be set free from. Little did I know, the weight of the words that would be written.

I remember sitting there with my head in my hands wondering how we got here. It seemed that every third note was about suicide, anxiety, depression or despair. The troublesome fact was, most parents had little to no idea. From my experience, most teens don’t tell their parents about their feelings or thoughts as it pertains to this topic until they are much older or it’s too late.

Teen anxiety has been on the rise since 2012. In 2015, about 3 million teens ages 12 to 17 had had at least one major depressive episode in the past year, according to the Department of Health and Human Services. More than 2 million reports experiencing depression that impairs their daily function. About 30% of girls and 20% of boys–totaling 6.3 million teens–have had an anxiety disorder, according to data from the National Institute of Mental Health (times magazine). These stats are more than likely on the low end as most teens don’t express their need for help. A 2015 report from the Child Mind Institute found that only about 20% of young people with a diagnosable anxiety disorder get treatment.

The reality is that our kids are growing up in a world that is very different than the world that we grew up in. They will never know a time where terrorist attacks, church shoots, school shootings are not the unfortunate norm. They are growing up in a digital world where they are constantly comparing themselves to everyone around the world in the blink of an eye. Not to mention the unrealistic pressures and standards that are placed on our kids by the educational system. To be successful you must do x, y and z.

So what’s the solution? What can we do as a generation to give hope to the next generation? I don’t have the complete answer yet, but I believe it begins with teaching our children when they are young about the sovereignty of God. Showing them that there is a God that loves them beyond their wildest imagination (John 3:16) and that He can be trusted no matter what happens in life

Isn’t it strange that our kids have no trouble believing that a fat man in a red suit can slide down a small chimney and give all kids in the world gifts in one night? What would happen if we invested the same amount of energy, from childhood into showing them why they can trust God with the circumstances of their life. When their life is the easiest begin teaching them about the sovereignty and provision of our the heavenly Father.

“Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all.” (Matthew 6:31-32).

Over the next several wks, I will be posting several times about ways to fight anxiety, worry, fear with trusting God. Let me know if this is something that you struggle with and if there is a particular area that you would like for me to speak to.

5 Ways To Trust God

5 Ways To Trust God

1.Regular Family Devotions & Prayer: Regular time with God increases our dependency on God. The more kids learn about the depth and breadth of the love of Jesus, the more they will have the confidence to lean on Him. Instilling a regular routine of scripture and prayer in our children’s lives is one of the more valuable spiritual skills we can hand our children. Family devotions don’t have to be 45 min’s long around the kitchen table. They can be but don’t have to be. The goal is for our children to be excited about their time with God. So, meet your kids where they are, on their level. Don’t be afraid to change it up. There are many nights that Kisha and I ask our kids, “what are you thankful for?” This one question opens the floor for some great conversation and we close by thanking God for those things.

Options: There are many great options to choose from.

  • ParentCue App: We will sometimes use the Parent Cue App because it helps reinforce the truths that kids our children are learning in their small group’s ar church. Check it out HERE!
  • Bible App: The Bible App by Life Church has some incredible family devotions for all ages. Check it out HERE!
  • A Good Children’s Bible: Jesus the Story Book Bible is a great tool for Parents. Check it out HERE! /

2.Be Involved in a Gospel-Centered Church that Values Your Family. As parents, Kisah and I are forever grateful for our son’s small group leaders. No matter what kind of week they had at school, their small group leader’s remind them that they are loved beyond their wildest imagination. A gospel-centered church is essential in helping children rightly understand God’s love and His might.

3. Memorize Scripture Together. The more our children know about God’s word, the more they will trust Him. Here are a few verses that are helpful to memorize.

  • 1 John 1:9: If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
  • Psalm 33:4: For the word of the Lord is right and true; he is faithful in all he does.
  • 1Chronicles 16:11: Look to the Lord and his strength; seek his face always.
  • Isaiah 41:10:  So do not fear, for I am with you. do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

4. Model Scripture. The more our children see us as parents keep our promises, the greater their potential will be to trust God’s promises. Try making some simple promises to your children that you can easily fulfill. Promise to buy them ice cream (for no reason) or take them on a bike ride. Whatever promises you make, be sure to follow through and remind them that just like you kept your promise so does God.

5. Do Something Fun. Set aside 15-30 minutes to play a fun game or activity that encourages children to trust God. Here are a few ideas: play the Blind Walk game or Bat and Moth game. At the end of the games discuss why it’s important to listen to God. Another fun activity is to read the story of Noah (Gen. 7-9) together. Spread out a piece of butcher paper or cardboard and draw a huge rainbow. As you are drawing have someone in your family tell a story of when they saw a rainbow. Hang the picture up as a reminder that becauseGod keeps His promises we can trust Him.

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